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11 Vibrators for Beginners – How to Choose Your First Vibrator

Buying your first vibrator can be an intimidating experience. For starters, there are so many kinds! How do you know which one is right for you? It’s not like you can return them if they don’t work out, like a pair of jeans that looked deceptively roomy on the rack, only to limit your mobility and use of your knees as soon as you try them on at home. Fortunately, there are experts like Dr. Carol Queen, sexologist, who can help you navigate your journey from non-vibe owner to seasoned vibrator expert.

Queen, who works as a staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, says many first-time shoppers will come into the store asking for the “best vibrator,” but “best” is such a subjective term that what’s best for everyone else, might not be good for you at all. Queen explains, “This is because our sexual responses are not exactly the same; everyone might want something a little different. Some want vaginal insertion (in fact, some think that’s the main way to masturbate, since it mimics intercourse; but intercourse isn’t the main way women orgasm!”

And then as if that weren’t enough, there are also different speeds and powers. According to Queen, “Some want a strong degree of vibration, while others want it mild. Some want a really quiet vibrator, and others don’t care about that at all.” So to buy the best vibrator, you really have to consider what gets you off in other settings. Sex toys, like a solid pair of jeans you wear shamelessly seven days in a row, work best when you know your body.

If you want a toy you can put inside you:

Without a clitoris vibrator:

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If you want a trustworthy beginner’s vibe you can use inside your vagina, the Gigi 2 has a very substantial motor for deeper vibrations, eight vibration patterns, and is nearly silent. It features a rechargeable battery (one hour of charge = one and a half hours of use = plenty of time to experiment.)

Gigi 2 by Lelo, $139, Lelo Buy Now

With a clitoris vibrator:

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If you want something you can insert inside yourself and stimulate your clit with, try a rabbit. As immortalized on Sex and the City, the rabbit features two lil’ bunny ears that gently reach your clit.

Luxe Touch Rabbit by Cal Exotics, $99, GoodVibrations Buy Now

That thrusts:

Fun Factory

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If you want a toy that actually thrusts and takes a lot of the work out for you, try Fun Factory’s Stronic Drei. It’s textured with ridges so you can experiment with different internal stimulations, boasts 10 patterns, and is rechargeable.

Stronic Drei, Fun Factory, $199, Babeland Buy Now

If you like something small with targeted clitoral stimulation:

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If you want targeted, buzzy vibrations, try the Tango. It’s small enough to hide anywhere, but packs a punch with three levels of intensity and five patterns.

Tango by WeVibe, $80, GoodVibrations Buy Now

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If you’re on a budget, try the Durex Play Delight Vibrating Bullet. It’s $20 and you can probably get it at your local drugstore. It’s not as powerful as the Tango, but it’s $60 cheaper, includes a battery for four hours of use, and is waterproof.

Play Delight Bullet, Durex, $20, Walmart Buy Now

If you like broader clitoral stimulation that you can feel on your whole vulva:

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For those that prefer vibrations spread out over their vulva and not as pinpoint targeted, try the Magic Wand. It’s often referred to as the “Cadillac of vibrators,” and is a bestseller for a reason — the vibrating head is nearly the size of a tennis ball, so you can feel the powerful vibrations everywhere.

Hitachi Magic Wand, $60, Babeland Buy Now

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Or try this cute heart-shaped vibrator if you want something smaller. You can use the broad sides for that same diffused-vibration feeling, or the tip of the heart for more targeted stimulation.

Rianne Heart Vibe, $34, Babeland Buy Now

If you want a toy that stimulates oral sex:

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The Womanizer utilizes suction to create a seal around your clitoris and tiny rumbly vibrations to simulate oral sex. Reviewers claim it can provide them with multiple, full body orgasms, and is super quiet too.

Womanizer, $198, GoodVibrations Buy Now

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For a more budget-friendly vibrator that feels like “butterfly kisses on your vagina,” try Dr. Kat’s Flutter Ring. Designed by a woman for women, the battery operated ring vibrator has four layers to stimulate your entire clitoral area.

Dr. Kat’s Flutter Ring, Adam & Eve, $18, Amazon Buy Now

If you want a toy you can use with your partner…

For hands-free vibes during partner sex:

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For those that like clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex to orgasm (who doesn’t?), try the Eva. The small beetle-like toy has wings you can tuck into your labia for hands-free stimulation.

Eva by Dame, $105, Babeland Buy Now

If you’re in a long-distance relationship:

You can get up to 60 feet of coverage using the remote that comes with this panty vibrator, or download the app to have your partner take over from anywhere in the world. The vibrator tucks into your underwear for a discreet and non-clunky experience and is rechargeable for up to an hour of use.

BluMotion Panty Vibe, OhMiBod, $129, GoodVibrations Buy Now

Above all else, know that it’s totally fine to ask questions in the store. If you feel awk about the shopping experience, try going to a female-friendly sex toy store, bringing a buddy, or just shopping online (most stores have discreet packaging).

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